Don't Fall Prey to Victim Mentality
What is victim-mentality?
The victim mentality is a negative mindset. He blames other people and circumstances for any unhappiness one feels inside. It's a "fining pointing" scenario.
Those who engage in a victim mentality look at life through a narrow lens of pessimistic perceptions, believing that everything that happens in life is the result of external causes. Internal reflection is not taken into account. Being a victim means absolving themselves of blame. Nothing their fault - never! Those involved in a victim mentality often enjoy the attention, sympathy, and validation they get from playing the "poor me."
When we fall into the victim's trap, the focus becomes on how weak we are, rather than how strong we are.
While no one is born with a victim mentality, no one is exempt from playing the victim either. Grandparents of old people, loving, well-meaning moms and dads, teens and even those considered “spiritually awake” can all be found dwelling in this defeatist world.
In fact, every person alive has played the victim role more than once in their
lives.
Victims want to be mentally prepared for the worst and unfortunately, for those who are victimized, this self-sabotaging behavior becomes even more powerful when things seem to be going their way because they are certain that "disaster awaits around the corner".
So how does one break free from this "poorly" self-defeating pessimistic programming, most of which was developed and adopted as a child?
It all starts at home with your perceptions/how you see yourself. Do you consider yourself a survivor or a victim?
Survivors embrace life and flow with it. They live in the present and control their lives. They are fully aware that they are the only ones responsible for what is happening. They know that taking responsibility for their lives, they have the power to change their lives.
Victims, on the other hand, are drowning in self-pity, arguing with life and pushing it back. They dwell in the past, believing that they are powerless to change circumstances - their key to avoiding responsibility. They live defensively and stay frozen in time, without progress because their perceptions tell them that they are weak.
The cost of victim mentality is high. It negatively affects every area of life - professional and personal. Those who see themselves as failures dwell in a victim because failure comes only to those who give up.
If we really want to shift from the victim mentality, we must first have it. We cannot change what we do not have. We must change our attitude and know that "change begins with me." We must accept survival and take actual steps...no matter how small or insignificant they may seem now, toward the goal of what we are looking to achieve.
Most importantly, we must continually empower ourselves with "I can" and "I will" statements and put a stop to degrading "I can't" or "I won't" statements and beliefs.
And, we must embrace gratitude - the greatest of attitudes. Daily, we need to take time to reflect on all the things that make us happy, on all the things that are going well in our life. Keeping our mind/energy focused on positive situations helps to counteract victim mentality.
In the end, we must honor ourselves with the same degree of respect and love that we try to give others. Only then will our minds and actions shift out of victim-hood to survival mode.
Truth is, we can't control other's actions or every circumstance that shows up in our lives, but we can control how we react to them. We don't have to be victims. It is a choice. Whatever happens or comes our way, we must view it as a challenge and not an excuse.
Looking for a powerful partner to help erase the negative victim tapes that play over and over in your head? Look no further than your local gym. Getting your blood flowing and your "happy, feel-good" hormones kicked in through challenging exercise is one of the best ways to overcome negativity, defeat victim mentality and put yourself on the fast track to feeling healthy physically, mentally and emotionally.
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
The victim needs to realize that small behavior and attitude changes can result in big rewards.
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